Have you ever lost your self-control and done or said something you regretted later? If so, the first thing you should do is forgive yourself. Next, it’s time to work on having better control over your anger. Here are a few tips:
Walk away
When someone says something that makes you angry, you are not obliged to react to that person instantly. You should avoid reacting at all while you still feel fury. Anger can cloud your judgement.
Physical activity
When you feel angry, engaging in physical exercise helps you release any aggression. Choose a high-energy type of exercise that tires you out to help eliminate any negative feelings you are experiencing. Vent your frustrations on a ball or some dumbbells rather than resorting to violence or harsh words that you cannot take back.
Wait until you are calm
If someone makes you feel mad, there is no point in dealing with the situation while you are emotional. When you try to resolve things while you are so a angry, they tend to escalate. This escalation can exacerbate an already tense situation. It is better to wait until you are in an even-tempered mood before thinking about the scenario that triggered your anger.
Reflect
Once you are in a more positive mood, take some time to think about the event that made you angry. Try to look at things from the other person’s perspective, too. Might the other person have had a good reason for saying what they said? Why did their words or actions make you so angry? Was there an element of truth to what was said or done? Calmly analyzing the situation from as many angles as possible will give you a more rational perspective of events. Reflecting will also help you organize your thoughts. Knowing what you want to say before you confront the person who made you angry is helpful.
Look for solutions
When a situation is really annoying you, look for a viable solution. For example, suppose you lose your temper because your desktop computer has slowed to a crawl, and you need to schedule a virtual meeting with your boss. Instead of losing your temper over your PC, consider saving up for a new one.
Seek help
Have you already tried implementing anger management tips to little or no avail? If you are struggling to control your anger despite taking sensible steps to try and subdue it, consider asking for some professional help from a therapist. A therapist can help you channel your anger in healthier ways using techniques such as cognitive-behavioral therapy.
