There are many articles published on the Internet and in magazines about ways to become a more likeable person. For some it comes naturally, for others it takes some practice.
Here are three ways to improve your social skills, shared by contributors at quora.com:
• Don’t just listen — actively listen. Simply hearing words doesn’t cut it. Likable people show that they’re listening to the person they’re talking to. Active listening requires four steps; hearing, interpreting, evaluating, and responding. Step one requires dropping what you’re doing and paying attention. Next, paraphrase what you’ve heard and ask clarifying questions. Evaluating means steering clear of quick judgment and jumping to conclusions and finally, give feedback to let the speaker know that you heard them.
• If someone is interrupted, ask them to continue. Everyone has been that person who is telling a story, gets interrupted, and then has to awkwardly stand by, wondering if anyone was even listening to you. Try being that person’s liberator by saying something like, “Hey, your story was getting interesting! Can you please tell me what happens next?” You will instantly put the speaker at ease and make them feel appreciated.
• End a conversation right. Your final words can leave a lasting impression on a person, so use them right. Send people off with a genuine remark like, “I enjoyed getting to know you,” or, “I hope you enjoy the rest of your day.” It’s so easy to do and can make all the difference
