Not everyone responds to positive affirmations. According to several studies published on this subject, people experiencing low-self-esteem may even feel worse by repeating positive statements day in and day out.
Consider the following alternatives from Psychology Today for improving self-esteem if positive affirmations don’t seem to be helping you:
Limit social comparisons.
Comparing ourselves to others – especially on social media – has a negative effect on our self-esteem. Instead of longing for someone else’s life, ask yourself, would I want to trade places with this person, keeping in mind both their strengths and limitations? Perhaps there are other areas of their lives that are not all that great, such as a drinking problem, or a bad relationship with a family member.
Start accepting compliments.
People with low self-esteem have a hard time accepting positive feedback. If the praise contradicts the negative view of ourselves, we reject it. Work on allowing yourself to accept compliments without filtering the feedback through the negative beliefs you may have about yourself.
Practice self-acceptance.
A large contributor to low self-esteem stems from believing that we have made “bad” decisions. It is better for us to accept ourselves regardless of our behaviours. We don’t want to continue making poor decisions, but the point is that you can accept yourself even if you don’t accept your past actions.
Cultivate positive relationships.
Research suggests that our self-esteem is largely influenced by people within our social circles This starts with our parents and other family members. It extends to our friendships as well. Take time to nurture relationships where you feel respected, valued, and cared for.
Behave in ways that make you like yourself.
Do things that make you proud of yourself. This might mean engaging in charitable or other meaningful activities. Consider the things you value and behave in accordance with them.
List your achievements.
While general positive statements may not be helpful for you unless you already have high self-esteem, try writing out a list of past achievements. This provides you with a reminder that you have been successful before. Select achievements that make you feel good about yourself and review them often.
